SHEROES Bios: Lucia Kim
SHEROES Bios is a collection of 12 selected stories taken from “ULTRAordinary SHEROES”, a collaborative project by The HEART Enterprise, Up Your Game Community, and Our Unique Stories to celebrate International Women’s Day 2019.
Lucia is the mother to two beautiful children, a 9-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. Her son was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder in South Korea, the country he was born and where they once lived.
Two years ago in 2017, Lucia made the brave decision to move the whole family to Singapore. Although the move was initiated because her husband was being relocated to the lion city for work, the decision to uproot the family was made by Lucia. One of the biggest challenges of arriving in a foreign country is learning to speak a new language. At that point, Lucia could speak only Korean but she decided to move because she believed that Singapore’s multicultural environment was going to be a better place for her children.
Back in South Korea, Lucia’s son attended a public school and was often bullied by his classmates. He also faced discrimination from his classmates’ parents who did not understand his behaviour. Due to the lack of acceptance, he became very withdrawn and this caused his parents great distress. Much of the family’s resources were spent on helping him but to no avail.
Since moving to Singapore, Lucia and her family have made some good friends, including other parents who have autistic children. Her son is now much happier, smiles a lot, and even initiates conversations. “Simply changing the environment has given him his self-confidence back,” notes the mother of two.
Lucia encourages other parents not to struggle on their own. “Even in the most pessimistic time of your life, come out and reach out to the people around you,” she adds. “Instead of searching for ultimate happiness, look out for little pockets of happiness. That is more practical for daily life.”
Lucia’s story first appeared at the ULTRAordinary SHEROES event organised by The HEART Enterprise and DISTRii Singapore on 8 March 2019.